Judgement

*Disclaimer - This was originally written at the beginning of 2012.... Blogs don’t get posted if you don’t hit publish.... Oh silly me! Anywho, boy have times have changed in over a year. Enjoy this late post. *

If you know me, you know that I probably the most “men ain’t shit” person ever. LOL If there was a man hating women’s club, I’d probably hold a leadership position. I am the first person to tell someone to run when a man screws up. Especially when she can do better or if I feel she is getting played to the left. I am a firm believer that I and any other woman doesn't necessarily NEED a man. They are really nice to have when they treat you well, respect you, etc. but in this day and time you don’t need one to make it in life.If you follow/read my blog you will know that I ran into a small situation a few weeks ago (read about it here). After giving myself the side eye, I have continued this relationship. Now, you can give me the side eye too if you would like. No worries, I have already given myself the side eye and have gotten it from my friends. This is like my personal diary response as to why I am still going with this.... Please realize this isn’t for you or him. It’s for me. I am just choosing to let you read my “justifications”... Enjoy.

• This “relationship” has history. Had this been some dude I had just met, I would’ve been gone like the wind, but this relationship was one that I had chosen to pursue not solely because he was a cute BMW (black man working). It was based upon past/current friendship. Something I felt like I should probably stick around for.... I guess time will tell if that is the case or not.
• No one is perfect. Everyone is entitled to ONE fuck up. This is his.... He got his out of the way early. I advise that he don’t make this shit a habit or he will find himself getting his Kool-Aid out of a packet.
• When I finally gave him the opportunity to give his side of the story, I KINDA believed it, well some of it. He claims he was trying to get out of the back and forth relationship with her. *insert side eye here* Regardless if I should believe it or not, now he’s out. Let’s see how it plays out.

As I’ve matured I’ve accepted that there are occasions in life where I have to take the bad with the good to reap the harvest God promised me. I’ve realized that I shouldn’t always be so quick to count someone out because of mistakes. Hell, I’m not perfect nor can I expect anyone else to be, but I should become a doormat either. We have to find a happy medium that we can live with in life. We need to look and try to see if things are real and genuine or not. Hopefully we can come out #winning in life.