Single and Fabulous

After my rant about me hating Valentine's Day, I figured I should redeem myself. To set the record straight, I am single and LOVING it! I am living a life that I am enjoying. I have the job that I want and I currently like most days (when I don't have to deal with adults). I get to dance SEVERAL times a week and my body look better than I did 10 years ago( I finally mastered making my boobs look like they finally grew in...LOL) . I get up and go when I get ready and stayed involved in all the wonderful things in which I want to be involved. I have had and continue to have opportunity to see the world. The most common words in this paragraph are my and I. So, if you haven't noticed I love me!

I look around and I'm sure I'm not READY (and for some may never be) for the other options. I work with kids all day; I really don't think I want to leave work and deal with my own kids. Now I have quite a few friends with bundles of "joy" and a niece who lives with me but they are not my children. I can deal with them when I want and not be bothered when I don’t. Now don't get me wrong, I love kids but I don't care to have any of my own at the moment.

Then there is the man option. Having a boyfriend/boo has its perks but it also comes with disadvantages. I understand that not all relationships are drama-filled and loveless, but I can’t help but feel some kind of way as I look at some of my friends’ relationships. I wasn’t built to handle my phone blowing up every from a man asking a zillion questions because he feels like he is my only contact in the outside world each time my Facebook or twitter accounts shows some activity - I would go insane! Another aspect of relationships that I have a hard time handling…checking in. We all must admit we do it regardless of the nature of the relationship, not only when the relationship lacks trust or when we’re curious about his location and what/who he’s doing. Nor could I handle the abuser (verbal, physical, psychological or sexual, to name a few) or let me just say he probably couldn't handle me. I will admit I have control issues and I very seriously doubt that I would ever live with having that little control in any relationship. I do believe my love for myself would make it hard for any man to belittle me, destroy my self-esteem/self-confidence or physically abuse me (I will fight back even knowing my ass will probably get kicked but, I'm not gonna just sit and let anybody beat my ass!)

Luckily for me, I don't believe that being the "Single Woman" is a straight path to becoming that old bitter black woman. I have seen women who live into old age happy with the single life and all they have accomplished on their own. If that is the woman I am destined to become, I'll be happy with all it has to offer! Sure, I still hope that one day I'll find someone I love just as much as love myself to share my life with, until then... the single life continues and I'm enjoying every second of it!