All my life, I was raised to be a lady. My mother had more than a few ideas of the traits she believed real lady should possess. A lady always wears earrings. It is unacceptable for a lady to talk to a boy/man after 10pm. Calling guy in general was frowned upon and after 9pm was a major no-no. My father always said he was going to have my sister and I fixed so we wouldn’t have children before we were adults - those 3 letters were forbidden...S-E-X.
I will say that I bought into that whole “act like a lady” idea a bit more than my rebellious little sister. These southern belle ideals have been drilled into my head for so long, that they are no longer just a list of traits, but a lifestyle. Throughout my adult life, I have been called a “southern belle” and even compared to Charlotte from “Sex and the City.” I grew up believing that no man wants a to marry a “loose” woman; however, I can't help but think that maybe "they" do want the loose woman, because those are the women who "have a ring on it." Now the questions begin, has my southern belle-living been in vain? Unlike what I've read in fairy tales and watched in "Gone With the Wind" type movies, this lady is not married.
On a recent date with Mr. LT, he mentioned that he thought I was an angel with a halo and all...he was intimidated by it. I took that as a compliment, as I have worked so hard to give off that vibe, but has that all worked in my favor? No. I hadn’t planned for it scare off men (especially the ones I want). Now don’t get me wrong, my “halo” has lost some of its luster and has a few dings on it, but has my “perfection” been part of my reason that pursuit continues? Oh well, (as I adjust my halo) this southern belle continues her pursuit…
I will say that I bought into that whole “act like a lady” idea a bit more than my rebellious little sister. These southern belle ideals have been drilled into my head for so long, that they are no longer just a list of traits, but a lifestyle. Throughout my adult life, I have been called a “southern belle” and even compared to Charlotte from “Sex and the City.” I grew up believing that no man wants a to marry a “loose” woman; however, I can't help but think that maybe "they" do want the loose woman, because those are the women who "have a ring on it." Now the questions begin, has my southern belle-living been in vain? Unlike what I've read in fairy tales and watched in "Gone With the Wind" type movies, this lady is not married.
On a recent date with Mr. LT, he mentioned that he thought I was an angel with a halo and all...he was intimidated by it. I took that as a compliment, as I have worked so hard to give off that vibe, but has that all worked in my favor? No. I hadn’t planned for it scare off men (especially the ones I want). Now don’t get me wrong, my “halo” has lost some of its luster and has a few dings on it, but has my “perfection” been part of my reason that pursuit continues? Oh well, (as I adjust my halo) this southern belle continues her pursuit…
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