In the last month, I have had friends, associates, old boos, and family members call me bougie* or complain that I’m too private. I think that I've been misunderstood. I enjoy nice things, want what I want and I refuse to settle for less. Does that make me bougie? This blog is my response to those accusations and begins my attempt to becoming more understood. I am going to share my experiences with whomever so wishes to follow me on my journey as I pursue love and happiness. This is a huge step for a girl who keeps a secret well…. Especially her own. Enjoy!
I am a 25 year old (this is the only time I will admit it) young woman who hasn’t had a “boyfriend” since I was 17. I have had several relationships that have led to NOwhere. I have been blessed when it comes to relationships because they haven’t been bad relationships; just not right for me. I'm sure these men of the past will each eventually make some woman very happy, unfortunately, for various reasons I couldn’t be her. These men either didn’t want to be in a relationship, were suffering from bachelor syndrome, or thought they could sweet talk me and go home to 'her'. (I left out needing to know where I was every second of the day…I’m still trying to forget that crazy man)! I have a daddy and I can think for myself. Cinderella’s glass slipper was a perfect fit and so mine should be too. Am I crazy for thinking that MY perfect man is out there? Are my friends and I that refuse to settle for any ole’ man destined to be single forever? If so, I will accept my destiny but will enjoy the ride along the way (and I’m inviting you to come along). I am happy now and refuse to settle just to have a ring and two incomes, yet be miserable. The only thing I’m settling for is my happiness.