Boy please.....A few months ago, my friend posted a blog. I clearly should have shared it because I found myself living out a similar situation. Check it out here.
During Thanksgiving break, I was in my good ole’ hometown with my "boo" and I found myself in a sticky situation. Before I go any further, he wasn’t and still isn’t my boyfriend; therefore in my eyes, exclusivity does not exist in our “relationship.” One night, I found myself looking at his ex make a scene. His ex who claims they still had some type of relationship although he was “with” me. I.WAS.HOT! Now, you may ask why was I mad – after all, we’re not exclusive, right? Is it because he had another girl? Nope. He should totally do him! Reason number one I was pissed: I felt as if the entire situation was full of intentional deceit and lies. He took it upon himself to go above and beyond to prove that he wasn’t involved with anyone besides me. I never asked that question, nor did I have a desire to know. Our relationship wasn’t at the point where I felt as though I was ready to make it exclusive. I was aware of all that comes with that. However, to lie about the fact that you did/didn’t have a date lined up for the weekend when you clearly stated you were going with a homey or alone. "You ain't gotta lie to kick it." Honesty is important in any relationship. I know I said clearly for him to get his shit together before I arrived because I didn't want any drama. Second, he has some nerve to act like every time I don't answer my phone or go out, I'm with a man. That's because that's clearly the shit he does. My female instinct told me he’s projecting his behavior on me. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and not falsely accuse people. I am a firm believer that what is done in the dark will come to the light.
Now... with all that being said, we still talk/date/whatever...no “side eyes" please.
During Thanksgiving break, I was in my good ole’ hometown with my "boo" and I found myself in a sticky situation. Before I go any further, he wasn’t and still isn’t my boyfriend; therefore in my eyes, exclusivity does not exist in our “relationship.” One night, I found myself looking at his ex make a scene. His ex who claims they still had some type of relationship although he was “with” me. I.WAS.HOT! Now, you may ask why was I mad – after all, we’re not exclusive, right? Is it because he had another girl? Nope. He should totally do him! Reason number one I was pissed: I felt as if the entire situation was full of intentional deceit and lies. He took it upon himself to go above and beyond to prove that he wasn’t involved with anyone besides me. I never asked that question, nor did I have a desire to know. Our relationship wasn’t at the point where I felt as though I was ready to make it exclusive. I was aware of all that comes with that. However, to lie about the fact that you did/didn’t have a date lined up for the weekend when you clearly stated you were going with a homey or alone. "You ain't gotta lie to kick it." Honesty is important in any relationship. I know I said clearly for him to get his shit together before I arrived because I didn't want any drama. Second, he has some nerve to act like every time I don't answer my phone or go out, I'm with a man. That's because that's clearly the shit he does. My female instinct told me he’s projecting his behavior on me. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and not falsely accuse people. I am a firm believer that what is done in the dark will come to the light.
Now... with all that being said, we still talk/date/whatever...no “side eyes" please.
