Thank You 2016

Thank you 2016!

2016 hasn’t been as bad for me as some of you based on your Facebook post but I am appreciative of the good, the bad, and ugly.  Thank you 2016 for all that you gave me.

     1)      Puberty

I’m finally getting my adult body which is a blessing and a curse. J It’s only 15 years late.

2)      Opportunities

My cup runneth over.  But like for real though.  Opportunities that are mine and I can do what I want them. Make them as big or as little. Ask and ye shall receive and receive abundantly. I am beyond thankful for the opportunities/learning experiences that are making me a better person and preparing me for whatever is next in life.

3)      My dying procrastination

With all my new opportunities, has come a severe illness to my art of procrastination. I can no longer put things off. When I do I get behind and end up experiencing forms of anxiety because I have a zillion things to do and no time. I now try to be a head of the game.

4)      Support

I am truly thank for my “team”. It often seems extremely small but I can count on the ones there. They look out and are there when I need them. They teach routines, come through with those Beyonce tickets, turn their house in to my personal bed and breakfast, etc. I am truly winning because of them.

 

5) Belief in the IMPOSSIBLE

 

2016 showed me to believe in the impossible. Go for the job I'm not qualified for. Set goals that aren't really realistic. Hopefully someone will have faith in me.

 

6) Racism is still alive and well and NOW loud.

 

I knew racism was alive. Hell I've dealt with it recently pre-Trump era. I've had people essentially slap me in my face with their white privilege as a sat across the table fighting for something completely different than they would ever begin to understand.  BUT TRUMP has shown me a completely different beast. Requiring me  to be more. More strategic with my opportunities. More loud with my people. More real with my people. I have been reminded why I work in communities where people look like me. And even more in my opportunities to empower little black girls.

Thank you 2016! Because of you, I will be even better in 2017. PEACE!

 

Obama Out!

I am so ready for the Obama’s to leave The White House. 

Yea! I said it but not for the reasons you think. I am a huge fan of the Obamas. I’m just ready for their abusive relationship with America to be over.

I think they have done a wonderful job as the first black family. The first family not to fit the “normal” mold of old white guys and their families.

Our president, has done his best to create change in America with what he was given. You can’t change the laws alone and most of his colleagues refused to work with him. But let’s see, he’s killed Osama Bin Landen, he had gas prices so low I felt like I was in high school again, I can go pick of prescriptions for birth control and go to gynecologist and not pay anything, and my dad was able to get health care that he could afford that in turn allowed him to have his neck repaired after he broke it. (And don’t get it twisted, my dad ain’t a lazy black man like most of you probably assumed. He has always worked and when I was in school he at some points had 2 jobs.) And those are just the things that personally affected me.

Our first lady, has shown nothing but class. She is not only attractive but she is also super intelligent and can hold her own. It is empowering to see a strong black woman speak well and loved by so many. She has been attacked but when they go low she continues to go high.

The first children, Malia and Sasha, have probably had it the worst. I cannot understand how people can be so disrespectful to children. They can’t even be normal children. They are scrutinized for dressing like the rest of the teenage population and going to parties. But did we forget the Bush girls. They were definitely a part of the fun time gang (not judging them at all because I was fun timing pretty much the same time they were) but many call the Obama girls entitled spoiled brats. They have served in this role much better than any that have come before them and they didn’t have a choice.

I have never seen a first family so disrespected as this family has. Don’t get me wrong I was not a fan of Bush. And he probably got to where he was through entitlement but I would have never disrespected his wife and children the way the Obamas are. (I personally respected Laura Bush. She was a teacher and that was our connection and Jenna often does the teacher stories on the today show. So I have come to like Jenna too.) I am happy to see the Obamas go and get out of the spotlight eventually. Stop getting so many attacks although I am sure they will continue somewhat. I’m like that friend who is waiting for a loved one’s suffering/abusive relationship to end.

It’s been real Obamas! No first family will ever do it like you do! You will forever be my favorite First Family. *An Obama drop of the mic*

SN: I am very fearful of what is to come...

HTTR

I'm still tackling my list!!!
 
3.  Go to a NFL football game. Lived in DC for 5 years and never attend a Redskins game!

Finally made it to a Redskin's game!! I had a blast and can't wait to go back! 
Now I even know the words to the song. LOL 


My elbow partner (the person sitting beside me) had some very valid points.

1. He knew we were cheerleaders and there for the cheerleaders before we ever sat down! Bahahahahaha! 
2. He questioned the judgement of all those Richmond fellas. He wanted to know how we, some beautiful  women, were alone at that game. Some nice men should've brought us to that game. And you know what?!?! He has a point! lol Hopefully he gets you fellas straight next time he's in town.

Anywho! It's official I think I would be a great boo/wife to a sports fan. I love sporting events I think after this game I've been to them all (or at least the main ones). AND I can follow the games! Hell I played them all or at the very least was on the sidelines. 

Happy Thanksgiving!

2016 has been an interesting year, full of twist and turns! I have so many things to be thankful for in my life. This year, I am specifically thankful for opportunities to given to me. Opportunities to not only educate the next generation but more importantly, the opportunity to impact them to be kind, hardworking people that do the right thing even when no one is watching and to help their peers. They are so much stronger together.   I may work many days 12+ hours and spend the weekends in a coma, but my purpose is bigger than me. Happy Thanksgiving!

From the Sideline

Sometimes you have to love people from a distance. Your role isn’t to be up front and center in their journey.  You have to cheer from the sidelines sometimes from the nosebleed seats if you are lucky. And that’s okay.  Trust your journey and the fact your role in their journey is over. Is it always easy? Nope. You eventually leave the stadium and occasionally turn on their station just to make sure they are still winning at this game called life even if you are no longer on the team. 

I'm Over It!

I. Am. Over. Dating.  I’m single and surprisingly okay with that. A friend of mine asked me the other day if I wanted to do online dating. I wanted to scream HELL NO! I’ve done that. I’ve dated friends, friends of friends, guys from high school, college, guys I’ve met through working. It has all been a fail. At this point, I’m tired of dating. I currently want no part of the process.

I am going to take it back to my youth and give you the top 10 reason’s I’m over it.

10.          I don’t REALLY like people like that.  Some of y’all have had 6 husbands and a new boyfriend every week. And are MADLY in love. Cool Beans for you! BUT that’s not my cup of tea. I don’t like everybody like that.

9.              I don’t want to pay to talk to a bunch of random guys on EHarmony or Match.com. I’d rather spend my money on food and shoes.

8.            I don’t want to go on dates with strangers. After we have ordered food, I’ve usually realized I want to go home and sit on my couch, drink wine, and watch TV in my pajamas.  Instead we discuss my accent and where I’m from or how he’s so great at his job. Which usually leaves me

unimpressed like Makayla.

7.            The time spent getting dressed, figuring out what to do to my hair, and applying makeup usually isn’t worth the free food.

6.  I don’t want to spend hours talking on the phone. I HATE talking on the phone.  Hate it! Dating people spend hours on the phone. I have NO clue what they are talking about but I know I don’t have it to say. Spare me the torture. I have toilets I can clean, lesson plans to complete, practices to attend, prime time TV to watch. 

5. Online daters often serial date. That would be pure torture to me. I don’t want to sit with people I don’t know and talk. I’m really not that friendly. In spite of my friendly disposition my dominate Gemini twin is an introvert and would rather not.

4. I. Do. Not. Want. To. Netflix. And. Chill. Yes, the way you think. Grown men still try this ish. I don’t know you!  We are not In high school. Calm it down. These boobs (as small as they may be) belong to me. Hands off! Thanks!  

3.  I really need to focus on me. There are so many things I can focus my energy on. I really just want to take the time focus on my AWESOME. Guys are a distraction and needy. I currently have 3 jobs and a list of other responsibilities that I enjoy. I don’t have the energy to play house.

2. As I watch others be super mom and super wife, I’m not quite sure I can handle the job. Sometimes, I’m not sure if I want the jobs. I don’t know how you do it all! I don’t think I can hang. Women can do it all. I don’t think I’m the woman who can do it all at once. I’m overwhelmed some days with just me. !

1.  I am over (ALL THE WAY OVER) trying to prove I’m enough when I am usually over qualified. I clean, cook, and few other things too *wink wink*. I spend all day taking care of other people’s children so I have that covered too. I can be high maintenance in some eyes but I work to afford myself so I’m good. I don't want your money.

I know, I know I need to date to find a husband but I have to weed through the not for me to find the right one. I’m all the way over weeding. God is still working on my husband. And I hope he is making him a patient and about his business, because at this point dating seems to be more trouble than it’s worth. And I'm exhausted and I ain't got time for no bullshit. When he finds me he needs to know I will probably have on black tights/sweatpants, no makeup and a pony tail. He will need to like noodles and sauce because that is what I like eat. Hopefully he's out there. If not, I'm moving on with life! Living in my truth and in peace.


 

Leaving a Trail of Glitter

I want a 90’s kinda love. I want to make it to the end of Lemonade. I want to build sandcastles. I want someone to choose to love me, be in love with me and only me. That is different than loving me. I want you to love me in spite of it all.  Some one who sees me as enough the way I am.

I wasn’t enough at least that’s how you felt…

Sometimes you have to get up from the beautiful and perfect table when love is no longer served. Stand up and just walk away. Leaving a trail of purple glitter…